Thursday, November 8, 2012

Harei At

     On facebook there is an ad saying that there will be an end to the "shidduch crisis". I of course assumed that was because mashiach will be here soon. Silly me. It is because of the debut of the new dating website called Harei At. Not to be pessimistic but I am not sure how different this site could be than any other dating website. What makes a dating website good or bad comes down to the quality of the participants. A lot of dating websites have a lot of the same people .  This is  not bad, but without a more diverse base of participants  what would make this site different?  I wish the website Harei At good fortune, but I don't think that the grandiose campaign promises have convinced me to sign up. Or even look at their site to begin with. Oy.

8 comments:

Mighty Garnel Ironheart said...

The shiduch crisis will end when we stop educating children to see each other as objects instead of human beings and when we stop judging people superficially instead of getting to know them.

Mr. Cohen said...

I collected around 24 Jewish dating web sites, so I can’t believe that one more will make enough of a difference to “end the shidduch crisis”.

My advice for ending the shidduch crisis:

Take your list of requirements, tear it up into little pieces, and throw the little pieces into a fire. If you are not able to do that, then make your list as short as possible.

Stop the invasive investigations and stop asking so many questions.

If a SJF and a SJM enjoy spending time together, then they can get married, unless there is a Halachic prohibition.

Maya Resnikoff said...

Advertising is, as always, over-the-top. It is getting them attention (after all, you blogged about it), but not quite the sort that they want...

frum single female said...

maya- lol, so true

Anonymous said...

The shidduch crisis will end once people really start helpig each other by brainstorming for.ideas instead of blaming the shidduch crisis or anything else...

frum single female said...

Anonymous- the blame game is never good. Mostly people like to blame the singles which does not help anything. I do agree with you that people really need to get together and brainstorm . Of course I have no real answers or I would be married.

Anonymous said...

The only thing that is really annoying on Harei at, is that. when you pay for being able to write a message to someone, this someone is not able to respond to your email if /she or he did not pay too. The person won't even be able to read you message unless they pay. In order to speak of success Harei at should at least activate the possibility to message or chat with the people who wrote you first, even if you did not pay. To compensate this, they could rise the price from 19,99$ to 29,99$ and they would be different than other sites. So if there is anyone who would like to create a useful dating site; I just gave an idea to distinguish ones site form others, and one could use this argument for promotion too. (I am a male, I don't find it romantic to pay for finding the soulmate. I is like buying the perfect match and I am not going to do this.) I would like to meet my future wife by "coincidence".

Anonymous said...

The way the world, even the Jewish world, works is based upon exchange. In this case, money. When I hear someone complain about paying to date, I suspect that person will want ME to pay for a date. Generosity of all kinds from both parties is necessary for a successful relationship.